Comments on: Do You Already Assume How the Conversation Went? http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/ Making Money Online Blogging by Milking the Internet! Fri, 03 Dec 2010 03:40:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: the three dog blogger http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-30601 the three dog blogger Sat, 16 May 2009 05:00:24 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-30601 You are right. I don't know how often I have had a conversation in my mind with someone only to be surprised that when it comes to the real deal the outcome is entirely different! I guess we never know how things will play out in real life until we actually see them through. You are right. I don't know how often I have had a conversation in my mind with someone only to be surprised that when it comes to the real deal the outcome is entirely different! I guess we never know how things will play out in real life until we actually see them through.

]]> By: Ray Johnson | Make money on the internet http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27441 Ray Johnson | Make money on the internet Thu, 27 Nov 2008 02:35:21 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27441 I have done this so many times. Especially when it comes to confronting people about something. All those imaginary situations inside your head make the task impossibly difficult. I have done this so many times. Especially when it comes to confronting people about something. All those imaginary situations inside your head make the task impossibly difficult.

]]> By: Normal Joe http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27415 Normal Joe Tue, 25 Nov 2008 23:16:38 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27415 Interesting serious Jason! I have been underground for a little bit and missed the start, so I am going back through so I can catch up! I think there are times we all assume more than we should. It's something you have to work at, and like you said, being truthful or realizing who you're telling lies to and what about, will help you get to that point of not assuming so much. Interesting serious Jason! I have been underground for a little bit and missed the start, so I am going back through so I can catch up!

I think there are times we all assume more than we should. It’s something you have to work at, and like you said, being truthful or realizing who you’re telling lies to and what about, will help you get to that point of not assuming so much.

]]> By: JR @ Internet Marketing Do-Follow Blog http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27396 JR @ Internet Marketing Do-Follow Blog Mon, 24 Nov 2008 13:15:03 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27396 Sorry forgot to subscribe to comments Sorry forgot to subscribe to comments

]]> By: JR @ Internet Marketing Do-Follow Blog http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27395 JR @ Internet Marketing Do-Follow Blog Mon, 24 Nov 2008 13:14:14 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27395 I do this all the time, I always assume and you know what that means. I think that is the one lesson I still have not learned completely. Looking forward to next post. I do this all the time, I always assume and you know what that means. I think that is the one lesson I still have not learned completely. Looking forward to next post.

]]> By: Why Do We Sometimes Need a Slap in the Face? | John Cow dot Com http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27372 Why Do We Sometimes Need a Slap in the Face? | John Cow dot Com Sat, 22 Nov 2008 20:04:34 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27372 [...] 3. Do You Already Assume How the Conversation Went? [...] [...] 3. Do You Already Assume How the Conversation Went? [...]

]]> By: Kay Elizabeth http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27364 Kay Elizabeth Sat, 22 Nov 2008 15:26:24 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27364 Great post and a very honest one. Avoiding conversations, sure! That's so much easier than having difficult ones. I hate conflict and was a world champion at avoiding it. What happens though is the longer you wait, the tougher it is and the more stressed you get with uncertainty. Often the conversation doesn't happen at all which might seem like being let off the hook but in fact that's the worst because underlying issues are never resolved. Better to shine a light on it and bring it out in the open. Only then can you communicate properly. I don't think anyone can claim not to have lied ever, either to themselves or others. The problem arises when we find ourselves repeating the same lie over and over so much that it becomes engrained in our psyche eventually as truth and part of our belief system. I wrote just the other week a post called <a href="http://www.hillholler.com/2008/11/when-enough-is-enough-would-you-even-know-it/" rel="nofollow">When enough is enough, would you even know it?</a>. It illustrates one consequence of lying to ourselves, especially about our work and how tough it is for us - it takes away time from what and who really matters in life. That post was my own reminder to myself to look at things I was doing that I really needn't. You're not alone in this. Be there, done that and still do it occasionally. But once you start seeing yourself doing it, you're on the right road to self awareness. You can't be honest with anyone else until you can be honest with yourself. :) Great post and a very honest one.

Avoiding conversations, sure! That’s so much easier than having difficult ones. I hate conflict and was a world champion at avoiding it. What happens though is the longer you wait, the tougher it is and the more stressed you get with uncertainty. Often the conversation doesn’t happen at all which might seem like being let off the hook but in fact that’s the worst because underlying issues are never resolved. Better to shine a light on it and bring it out in the open. Only then can you communicate properly.

I don’t think anyone can claim not to have lied ever, either to themselves or others. The problem arises when we find ourselves repeating the same lie over and over so much that it becomes engrained in our psyche eventually as truth and part of our belief system. I wrote just the other week a post called When enough is enough, would you even know it?. It illustrates one consequence of lying to ourselves, especially about our work and how tough it is for us – it takes away time from what and who really matters in life.

That post was my own reminder to myself to look at things I was doing that I really needn’t. You’re not alone in this. Be there, done that and still do it occasionally. But once you start seeing yourself doing it, you’re on the right road to self awareness. You can’t be honest with anyone else until you can be honest with yourself. :)

]]> By: the three dog blogger http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27350 the three dog blogger Fri, 21 Nov 2008 18:56:47 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27350 You are right. I don't know how often I have had a conversation in my mind with someone only to be surprised that when it comes to the real deal the outcome is entirely different! I guess we never know how things will play out in real life until we actually see them through. You are right. I don’t know how often I have had a conversation in my mind with someone only to be surprised that when it comes to the real deal the outcome is entirely different! I guess we never know how things will play out in real life until we actually see them through.

]]> By: Al http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27349 Al Fri, 21 Nov 2008 18:52:52 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27349 Well, this seems to be taking 2 different directions here. After all, work and family are two different, yet important, parts of your life. Achieving balance between the two is often difficult, especially with highly driven people (like you). Driven people want the best for their family and their work, but the two do not always see that. AL Well, this seems to be taking 2 different directions here.
After all, work and family are two different, yet important, parts of your life.
Achieving balance between the two is often difficult, especially with highly driven people (like you).
Driven people want the best for their family and their work, but the two do not always see that.
AL

]]> By: Registry Easy Review http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27347 Registry Easy Review Fri, 21 Nov 2008 17:41:03 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27347 Thanks for the post Cow. I must say, it is quite refreshing to read a post that kind of focuses on another important area of business, that is ourselves. Which is, in itself, probably the most important thing that not too many focus on. I look forward to your remaining posts on this subject. -Shaun Cartwright Thanks for the post Cow.

I must say, it is quite refreshing to read a post that kind of focuses on another important area of business, that is ourselves. Which is, in itself, probably the most important thing that not too many focus on.

I look forward to your remaining posts on this subject.

-Shaun Cartwright

]]> By: Sohail http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27318 Sohail Thu, 20 Nov 2008 04:50:11 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27318 Yeah several times i don't discuss my ideas with anyone before implementing because i think they will not be able to understand what i gonna do it OR i won't be able to explain them what i am thinking in my mind OR i decide i have to do this and then i m afraid that if i tell this to anyone they may tell me that its not a great idea to go for. Yeah several times i don’t discuss my ideas with anyone before implementing because i think they will not be able to understand what i gonna do it OR i won’t be able to explain them what i am thinking in my mind OR i decide i have to do this and then i m afraid that if i tell this to anyone they may tell me that its not a great idea to go for.

]]> By: Emma http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27317 Emma Thu, 20 Nov 2008 04:42:31 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27317 This post is quite the cliffhanger. :smile: This post is quite the cliffhanger. :smile:

]]> By: Trevor http://www.johncow.com/do-you-already-assume-how-the-conversation-went/#comment-27316 Trevor Thu, 20 Nov 2008 04:35:54 +0000 http://www.johncow.com/?p=2300#comment-27316 Oh yea. Tons of times. I've avoided conversations mainly because i'm too lazy to address the issue or I just don't want to talk about it. I hope to see your article tomorrow! :mrgreen: Oh yea. Tons of times.

I’ve avoided conversations mainly because i’m too lazy to address the issue or I just don’t want to talk about it.

I hope to see your article tomorrow! :mrgreen:

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